Do you crack and crumble or bounce back from adversity?
You may not be able to change what has happened –(the recession, the job, the event) however you can Choose how you will respond to it. Remember, that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
So often, I realise that I have ‘catastrophized’ an event and when I have reluctantly dragged myself out for a walk, after a while, my focus changes. It feels like the sky s opened up and I see:
‘The world is not ending, this is not as bad as I had imagined’ and I regain perspective!
Choose your Attitude – every day
At the recent Tony Robbins seminar in Dublin, he suggested we:
- See it as it is; not worse than it is
- See it better than it is
- Make it the way you see it
Resilience is about bouncing back from adversity, regardless of what has happened to you, to not focus on the event, but rather to see that choosing your response is the only thing that can positively impact on achieving a better outcome.
‘Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it; we are in charge of our Attitudes.
Characteristics of Resilience
Resilient people pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and keep going, with a strong belief that things can and will get better.
Access your internal and external supports
Asking yourself ‘What can I learn from this? Who can I talk to? Where can I access support from? Life is less about what happens and more about how you respond – attitude is everything. When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
‘If you are going through hell, keep going’ Churchill
Remind yourself of past achievements & challenges you have overcome
Resilient people are able to utilise their skills and strengths to cope and recover from knockback and challenges whether job loss, money problems, relationship breakdown or death of a loved one. When you lack resilience, you get overwhelmed and simply fall apart, through dwelling on the problems and unhealthy coping mechanisms.
- See the glass half full
- They identify and manage their emotions
- They are flexible & adaptable
- They embrace Pro-Opportunitities – looking for the opportunity
- They have healthy coping mechanisms (diet/exercise/sleep)
- They seek support through supportive networks
- They keep going – they persevere knowing that life is a mix of good and bad.