work-lifeIf you really take care of yourself, you can take care of everything else.

What is wellbeing?

Wellbeing is when there is balance between work and home life, and stress is like an alarm prompting you to move back to wellbeing.

Women’s challenge

Women in particular busy themselves in over caring for others and spotting other people’s needs, but lousy at spotting their own needs. Do you take responsibility for everything and everybody and put yourself last? Then this article is for you!

Balance caring for others, with self care

Recognize where it came from; maybe when you were young you got recognition for that, so you find it hard to ask for support or help.  When someone offers help, never refuse, instead accept graciously. Accept the compliment, try not to hand it back, seek support when overloaded or overwhelmed, you work hard, you need and deserve a little help and support.

Work Life Balance:

Finding the half hour to exercise makes the rest of the day more manageable

‘When I exercise, things don’t get on top of me’

  • Nurture Self (Take time and space for yourself -coffee and a read of the paper or a trip to the spa)
  • Fit/Healthy (Take time to sit and eat healthy food- not eating on the run)
  • Drink/Party in responsible ways
  • Prioritise rest when tired-”I am tired, I am taking some time and I would like not to be disturbed”

Emotional Wellness-Have heart for yourself, not just for others

Emotional Self: (How you feel about yourself – move from:‘I’m not good enough’ towards: Self acceptance)

  • Focus on Affirming self- not criticising self
  • Get in touch with how you feel
  • Do you accept the compliment/gift or feel undeserving?
  • Move from  saying: ‘I can’t do it, towards:  ‘I haven’t done it before; but I will give it a try’

Work and Life Balance: Is your work your worth?

Work becomes a way of being visible if you did not feel  loved for self. Our deepest need is to be loved for ourselves and not for what we do. If balancing work/home life is an issue and relationships are suffering, there is a deeper issue ‘How is it you are not looking after yourself?’

Employee Wellness Programs: Set healthy boundaries

Connectivity creates problems however we need boundaries around times we are not available. When is the mobile off? Has the exception become the rule?

  • Treat yourself with respect & you will expect others to do the same
  • Take your breaks
  • Prioritise schedule to leave work at work
  • Learn to say No nicely
  • Delegate

Need for intimacy and connection – so set a regular date night!
Stress reduction: Take responsibility for your own needs and find a way to meet them
Wellness Goals: What new choices & new actions do you need to make?