Enhance well-being through compassionate relating

Enhance well-being through compassionate relating

Our interaction with another person needs to be of a nature that enhances our relationship with them and that promotes wellbeing

How to respond  when someone is defensive with you

When others are defensive, ‘can you see they are hurt?

• Breathe our slowly to self-calm

• Step back and from a place of separateness try

• Get under their defensive reactions to see what lies hidden.

• If you personalize what they have said, you become defensive too –‘how dare you speak like that!’

Get under the stand they are trying to make (through their behavior)

What is their behavior about? Our unconditionality creates the safety for them to say how they feel and what they need

Meet they unmet need & they don’t need their behavior

This requires us to be non-judgmental and emphatic & it creates the safety for the other to be emotionally expressive, and for us to be emotionally receptive.

Key Qualities:

• Non judgmental
• Being present to the other, actively listening
• Being open to the other being different to you
• Being considerate of the other’s particular circumstances
• Staying separate
• Being empowering of the other to live their own lives
• Being gentle in your approach
• Being nurturing; conveying the others worthiness of care
• Recognizing the other as ‘expert’ of their own life
• Being emphatic towards the feelings of the other

Each of us has a responsibility to reflect on how we are in ourselves
Each of us has a responsibility to reflect on how we relate to others
Governing self and others, requires Head and Heart (logic & empathy)
The more self aware you become, the more you ensure the well being of others