What is resilience? It is the ability to persevere and adapt when things go awry.
Stress Management through building your resilience
We know it is not so much what happens to us, but more about our response that determines what outcomes we experience. Therefore, if we increase our resilience, we improve our ability to manage all that we have to manage. Without resilience, we give up or feel helpless and not in control of our lives.
Stress reduction: What’s required?
A commitment to change. We know that key to building resilience is to practice self-care so therefore we need to decide some key changes we will make to take care of ourselves so we can take care of everything else.
How good are you at looking after yourself? Do you find it difficult? Do you know that how you look after yourself reveals how you feel about yourself. Therefore, if you feel good about yourself, you are likely to take exercise, eat healthily, ensure you have time out to meet with friends or your partner and have an awareness of your limits.
The No 1 challenge for men is to nurture and take care of self. When you actively ensure your wellbeing, you ensure the wellbeing of others. Women have a major difficulty in asking for and receiving help and are not conscious of how unworthy they feel to receive. Over caring for others needs to be balanced with caring for self, you are only responsible for yourself, not for everybody and everything else.
Physically: do you
- Nurture self with healthy diet
- Find a half hour to exercise makes the rest of the day more manageable
- Prioritise rest when tired
- Take time to relax/meditate
When you take care of yourself, you can take care of everything else.
What happens when we don’t look after ourselves?
What new choices will you make? What new actions will you take?
Identify one change you can make to look after yourself better
I need to:
- Start doing
- Stop doing
- Do more
- Do less
- Do differently